Facebook Timeline picture quote, poem by an Unknown Author, self love, self-acceptance, Self-care., self-respect
Love for others has been, always, a lot easier for me over the years than having compassion for myself. I have been so goal-oriented since childhood. Probably because I wanted to improve my circumstances in life and have a good future. I knew I was the only one who could make that happen. Accomplishments gave me something positive to focus on and it distracted me from painful memories from the past. I enjoyed the challenges that came my way.
I was interested in improving myself as a person so I did a lot of reading and had some therapy which was very beneficial for my growth as a professional, my skills as a parent, and it helped me understand others I came in contact with. I learned more effective communication skills, problem solving skills, conflict resolution skills, and assertiveness skills. But it really wasn’t until I became ill and had to face learning to accept the loss of my physical strength and energy levels, and had to face my own limitations, that I saw I had work to do. I had to face the realization I was sorely in need of guidance and work on self-esteem issues, my self-respect, and that I had to learn to develop more compassion for me. My job was no longer there to distract me or serve as a resource for self-validation. I no longer had the physical attributes that once gave me self-confidence and pride. My family had moved on because of job opportunities. I no longer had youth as a resource.
It’s been difficult learning how to make myself a priority. I struggle with it. I’m still learning a lot about self-love. It’s not as easy to do for some of us who grew up putting others as number one in our priority list. I want to share with you a poem by an Unknown Author that has been one of my favorite poems.
I have to live with myself, and so
I want to be fit for myself to know;
I don’t want to stand, with the setting sun
And hate myself for the things I’ve done.
I want to go out with my head erect;
I want to deserve all men’s respect;
But here in the struggle for fame and self
I want to be able to like myself.
I don’t want to look at myself and know
That I’m bluster and bluff and empty show.
I never can foul myself, and so
Whatever happens I want to be
Self-respecting and conscience free.
I wish you more energy and love to keep doing what you’ve been doing – work. I think one has to learn to not care if you’re liked when doing these 12 things. I’ve watched people not put their needs forth just in case they might offend another while it costs them some important things like #1, 3, 4, 7 and 9. It’s a hard lesson to understand that many times, what others think of you has nothing to do with you. Self care can be so difficult. Thank you for this.
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Thank you for your feedback, Jayne.
Brilliant!!!! love it