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Dichotomies In Life.

04 Friday Dec 2020

Posted by Yu/stan/kema in Poetry, Psychology, spirituality, Uncategorized

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There will always be hardships

That cause us great pain,

And droughts that will test us

Before we see rain.

There will always be childbirths

Filled with our screams

Before we are brought

The child of our dreams.

We often are given

Good things with the bad.

We cry tears of joy and

We cry when we’re sad.

When Christ died for us

To set us all free,

It gave me great joy

And left sadness in me.

-Yu/stan/kema-






					

The Nature Of Love.

26 Friday Apr 2019

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blessings, Disappointments, grief, happiness, Joy, love, Poetry by Yu/stan/kema., Risk and love., sadness

I have fought so many battles

Over all these years.

I’ve come to accept

Some days are filled with tears.

 

For when your kind spirit

Believes there’s good in men,

Despite acts of betrayal,

You don’t give in and sin.

 

The weight of disappointments

Breaks your heart in two.

Even with lots of blessings,

Grief steals a part of you.

 

Love can make you happy.

Giving brings you joy,

Yet it often brings great sorrow

And pain that can destroy.

 

To risk is a gamble,

But if you do not try,

You’ll wonder what you missed,

After your last “good-bye.”

Yu/stan/kema.

 

 

The Meaning Of Sadness.

04 Monday Apr 2016

Posted by Yu/stan/kema in photo, Poetry, Psychology, Uncategorized

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Found on Pinterest 2-11-16.

Found on Pinterest 2-11-16.

Sorrow moves in us,

Confusing our senses.

When it moves to the head,

It takes away our defenses.

It leaves us vulnerable

To doubt, inertia, and shame.

We carry a heavy burden when

Others, harmfully, say our name.

 

For we know deep inside our soul,

This is no simple made up game,

But real emotions, painful thoughts,

That cut us like a sharpened knife,

And leave us feeling like time forgot

Once more, the reality of us existing.

Our tears fall on child-like faces,

Leaving our sightless eyes misting.

 

Sorrow moves to the throat,

Drying up the moisture, now gone.

We barely speak our words by rote.

We are told to share the thoughts

We have built our lives upon.

Those thoughts now, have no meaning,

We  learn slowly not to care by

Cutting off access to all feeling.

Yu/stan/kema.

Processing Emotions, Sensations, and Thoughts.

17 Thursday Mar 2016

Posted by Yu/stan/kema in Photos, Poetry, Psychology, spirituality

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anger, Body, Breaking by Qinni., Conflict within, Dialectical Dilemma, emotions, fear, love, Pinterest photos., poetry by Yu/stan/kema, Psychology., sadness, Sensations., soul, Spirit by Maria Sophia., spirituality, The body, the mind, the soul, thoughts

Found on Pinterest on 3-16-16. "Breaking," by Qinni.

Found on Pinterest on 3-16-16. “Breaking,” by Qinni.

 

When dealing with a dialectical dilemma,

I find myself struggling with these emotions

That contend inside of me:

” Fight it or avoid it,” says Fear.

“Make something happen,” shouts Anger.

” You can’t fix it,” cries Sadness.

 ” Have faith and trust,” says Love.

 

Mind , body, and soul remain poised

Between What Was, What Is, and What Will Be.

Every thing seems to hang in the balance:

” I’m tired to the bone,” says the Body.

Found on Pinterest on 3-15-16. Body, soul,spirit. Mana Sophia.

Found on Pinterest on 3-15-16. Body, soul,spirit. Maria Sophia.

” Accept fully,” says Wise Mind.

” Let go, and believe,” says the Soul.

 

With all this conflict within,

How will it ever end?

 

Yu/stan/kema

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Color Of Feelings.

05 Saturday Mar 2016

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Feelings have color, taste, and form

For those  with a sensitive nature.  

Found on Pinterest on 2-22-16. Louise Erdrich.

Found on Pinterest on 2-22-16. Louise Erdrich.

Not everyone is born with this,

A gift from The Great Creator.

At times it seems like a blessing.

Sometimes it feels like a curse.

Emotions can make us feel pleasant,

Or they can make us feel worse.

Despair is thin, the mouth dry,

With a powdery taste on the tongue.

The chest aches with discarded tears,

And songs left unsung.

Depression is black and bitter,

Heavy with the weight of oppression.

The chest feels tight and the breath slows,

And the skin feels little sensation.

Anger causes the head to feel tight,

The rhythm of the heart to quicken.

The skin can take on a reddish hue,

And the soul feels stricken.

Sadness is a charcoal gray

And leaves no taste in the mouth.

It comes in waves like the ocean tide.

Everything good goes south.

Fear has a bit of a metallic taste,

And encases the body in tension.

The heart-beats speed up and

The soul strives for ascension.

Love is the color of red,

Found on Pinterest on 2-16-16. Lilac Time.

Found on Pinterest on 2-16-16. Lilac Time.

And causes the heart to sing.

It’s a sweet taste on the lips,

And the smell of flowers in Spring.

Joy is the color of giving,

A beautiful color of yellow.

Joy brings fun in living,

And comforts like a pillow.

So many kinds of feelings,

To cope with them is an art.

We cannot  stuff them all.

For they live within the heart.

Yu/stan/kema

 

Broken Dreams Break The Heart.

28 Monday Dec 2015

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Found on Pinterest on 11-9-15.

Found on Pinterest on 11-9-15.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

BROKEN DREAMS BREAK THE HEART

Broken dreams shatter the soul

And leave barren ground where nothing grows.

All that the heart hopes for is gone.

An empty shell remains where the wind blows.

Yu/stan/kema

 

Found on Google + on 8-3-15. Monument Valley MV3. Margaret Tompkins.

Found on Google + on 8-3-15. Monument Valley MV3. Margaret Tompkins.

 

 

 

 

 

Nostalgia Grips The Heart.

11 Monday May 2015

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absence, heart, Is it O.K.?, Missing you, Nostalgia, Pinterest picture quotes, poetry by Yu/stan/kema, sadness, silence

I miss you.

Even though

I know

I shouldn’t.

But I do.

I miss the days

Of reading and talking,

Of quiet understandings,

And your gentle ways.

I travel alone,

But I  left,

Behind

A part of

Myself

I cannot yet, own.

Yu/stan/kema                                        

Found on Pinterest on 4-27-15. Terry Prachett.

Found on Pinterest on 4-27-15. Terry Pratchett.

You said:

“Every thing

Was going

To be O.K.”

O.K for who?

Found on Pinterest on 5-10-15.

Found on Pinterest on 5-10-15.

I know now what sadness is.

Silence fills the hours of my life.

Absence cuts the corners of my heart

With a  long, sharp knife.

Yu/stan/kema.

The Wounds Of Life Can Lead To Growth.

01 Sunday Mar 2015

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We all know that life is filled with good and bad experiences. When we see the bad experiences coming, our first thought is to avoid them. If we are lucky, we have readied ourselves with resources to help us cope with them. Those of us, not so lucky, have to wade through them and hope we don’t drown from pain, sadness, anger, and fear. Most of us don’t like unpleasantness. Probably, a large majority of us don’t really enjoy pain or fear. Anger and sadness are more familiar to us and we feel better apt to cope with them for the most part. When many difficulties hit at once, most of us become rattled or undone. When our struggles are long-lasting with an element of uncertainty, we have a tendency to sink, get exhausted, and we want to give up. Even those of us who are fighters have trouble. By that time,  it starts to feel personal and we end up lashing out at the very people who could help us. We often end up angry with God.

Found on Pinterest on 1-7-15.

Found on Pinterest on 1-7-15. Written by Caroline Myss.

In the last few years, I have experienced some losses, a major health problem that requires ongoing treatment that triggers unresolved trauma from my past, and another bad experience that reawakened old childhood fears and insecurities. I always felt I could survive anything, that nothing could defeat me. I was proud of my coping skills and felt I had it all under control.

Boy, was I wrong. The wounds I experienced, ate at the very core of who I was as a person. They picked at my weaknesses and laid waste my strengths.  I was filled with shock for a while and walked around in a daze for a long time. Then I had to cope with emotional pain as well as physical pain. I was not a good little fighter like I thought I was. Maybe being older and having less energy had a lot to do with my state of mind. I went into the deepest depression I  ever had. It took me forever to crawl out, but I now know what deep depression feels like and how hard it is to crawl out of the darkness. Anger came as well as bitterness, and irritability. By that time, I knew I needed help. For many months, I gave a therapist a very difficult time. She hung in there and saw me through some frustrating and trying times.

Even the best of us fall at times. I have just begun the process of pulling myself back up from my fall. I am learning to have more patience and more understanding of other people’s differences. I am learning to cope with uncertainty, fear, sadness and pain in more effective ways. I don’t enjoy the bad experiences, but as a result of them, I am growing in my heart and soul. I am becoming better than I once was. I wish there was a better way to get growth.

Yu/stan/kema.

SOMEBODY IS THINKING OF YOU.

31 Saturday Jan 2015

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Alone, George Mathias, hope, life, lost, sadness

sad-love-poem on Google+ on 1-7-15. Kopiera.  George Mathias. Love quotes.

sad-love-poem on Google+ on 1-7-15. Kopiera. George Mathias. Love quotes.

Don’t give up on life,

You’ve got to hang tough.

Somebody loves you

 More than enough.

 

Though life has taken

All that you had. 

There is always tomorrow, 

And No, you’re not bad.

 

I’ve been where you’re at,

So I know you feel lost.

You’ve got to hang on 

Whatever the cost.

 

Somebody is waiting

For someone like you.

So don’t give up hope

Whatever you do.

 

Around the next corner, 

Life’s got a surprise 

To warm up your heart

And put love in your eyes.

   –Yu/stan/kema–

Giving A Voice To Those Who Cannot Speak.

14 Wednesday Jan 2015

Posted by Yu/stan/kema in Article., Psychology, Uncategorized

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anger, child abuse, consequences of abuse., depression, history of abuse, I will speak, PTSD, sadness, trauma, Voice

                                        CHILD ABUSE                                                                     Child abuse statistics keep rising in the United States. For decades, this crime perpetrated against children was not spoken of in society. If they saw a child being beaten, cursed , shamed in front of others, people averted their eyes. Society considered children as property of the parents and the parents were given the right to discipline their children any way they saw fit. They were often sent into the fields to work at a very young age, or they were given to neighbors to work in order to repay old debts. Society passed Laws to prevent the labor of children whose childhoods had been lost.

When the internet came into existence and people were able to see and do whatever they wanted to at home without embarrassment, the pornography industry took off like a rocket, and a segment of that industry specifically targeted young children and teenagers.  Being a crime, was not enough to deter the pedophiles. Many of them began abducting children. They kidnapped children walking to school, playing in the streets, and took  children from their own homes. This caused fear and parents tightened the rules about children playing outdoors, or walking to school without older children or parents being present. The perpetrator was often seen as some stranger lurking in the shadows.

It was only in the last fifty years that survey data indicated some young adults were reporting they experienced their first sexual encounter, as children or in their early teens, with someone they knew and lived with or another relative. It was alarming because society could not believe a parent could do this to a child, let alone a sibling sexually abusing a smaller child in the home. Later studies also validated this was occurring. In the beginning, it was easier for some in society to believe it wasn’t true and children were just imagining it or were lying in order to manipulate their parents to give them things they wanted.  They accused Therapists of brainwashing clients or manipulating them for some nefarious reason, such as trying to alienate the child from his/her family system or keeping the client in therapy longer to make more money. When adults became brave enough to seek help, some found themselves being victimized again, first by the perpetrator and then by society.

The toll was great on the lives of the abused adult children. They had high rates of depression and anxiety disorders, gastrointestinal problems, marital difficulties, sexual dysfunction disorders, relationship issues, alcohol and drug problems, eating disorders, self-injuring behaviors, higher rates of attempted suicide, difficulties in knowing how to parent children, and problems with trust and anger. The cost of treatment for all of this was astronomical. On top of that, were the lost days of work due to anxiety and depression. Some of the adult survivors were unable to work and went on disability because of the damage done by the trauma.

 Post-traumatic Stress Disorder is also common in adults who were sexually abused as children. They often experience mood swings, have recurring flashbacks about the abuse, and have sleep problems. It is hard for them to trust other people. They frequently struggle with shame and have difficulty regulating their anger. It is hard for them to believe in hope or any kind of future because they carry the weight of the trauma on their backs. They have difficulty finding happiness. The trauma is ongoing because, when they get with family members on the holidays, the abuse memories resurface.

In some of the posts that follow, I will attempt to  speak for the survivors  who still struggle from time to time with their abuse. Most of all, I will speak for those children now who may be experiencing abuse and are silent because of fear. There is hope in a future for these children, but they will have to endure a lot of pain and sadness working through their feelings about the abuse in treatment.

Yu/stan/kema

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This paper was written based on thirty years of experience working in the mental health field as a professional, and working in conjunction with the Area Rape Center where I lived, and  Child Protection Services.

Judith Herman’s  book : Trauma and Recovery. The aftermath of violence from domestic abuse to political terror, was helpful.

The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook written by Glenn R. Schiraldi, Ph.D. was useful.

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