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In Hard Times, We Must Persevere.

11 Wednesday Mar 2020

Posted by Yu/stan/kema in Article., Poetry, Psychology, spirituality, Uncategorized

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As a child, I lived through a lot of adversity. I was born prematurely and had to fight to survive. I spent my first months in a hospital with few resources  to deal with premature infants. I went home later with my parents who were hard core alcoholics. My mother also had depression and spent a lot of time in bed. My siblings and I learned early how to find food on trees and bushes to eat. We even ate grass and flowers when we were hungry enough. In the winter, we ate nuts we cracked open with rocks, and we went down the alleys foraging through trash barrels to find empty beer bottles and pop bottles. We would haul them to the beer joint and grocery store in a little red wagon for refunds. We used the money to buy food. Four of us slept in a double bed at night.

There was domestic violence in our household. When I was ten, three of us were placed in a Children’s Home. By the time I was nineteen, I had moved 17 times. Eventually I went to college and worked hard to earn two degrees. I learned to survive by enduring and using resources I could find. I became a teacher and a social worker for 30 + years. I married, had a child, and wrote in my spare time. I learned to survive by having persistence. I learned to live by having hope in the future, faith in people and God, and love from others along the way.

I am an old woman now with a severe illness and have to have treatment every two weeks at an infusion center. The Social Security and Medicare payments that were taken out of every pay check I made while I worked were to be there when I retired. I had a 401 k but the recession in 2008-9, took some of it. I believed in the US Government that took my money from my pay checks. I believed they would honor the contract we had.

But Congress decided to change the law and allow them to raid the Social Security Fund for their own interests and they have year after year, leaving worthless IOU’s behind they never intended to pay back. The old are being threatened over and over that their money may be cut or Social Security may be eliminated. They are told their Medicare will be gutted so the rich can have more tax cuts. Notice that their benefits are not on the chopping block (Congress).

We are now facing financial and health problems that will affect us all. We will have to be strong. We will have to endure the months ahead with Wall Street being unstable and the new virus spreading. Maltbie Davenport Babcock said it best when he wrote this poem, “Be Strong.”          Yu/stan/kema

 

Be strong!

We are not here to play, to dream, to drift;

We have hard work to do, and loads to lift;

Shun not the struggle–face it; ’tis God’s gift.

Be strong!

Say not,” The days are evil. Who’s to blame”

And fold the hands and acquiesce–oh shame!

Stand up, speak out, and bravely, in God’s name.

Be strong!

It matters not how deep entrenched the wrong,

How hard the battle goes, the day how long;

Faint not–fight on! To-morrow comes the song.

MALTBIE DAVENPORT BABCOCK

The Changing Face Of Perception.

06 Tuesday Feb 2018

Posted by Yu/stan/kema in Article., Psychology, spirituality

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adversity, Article by Yu/stan/kema., good and evil, Making choices., Participating in life or being a victim., Perceptions change, We have power.

It always amazes me how in times of adversity, our lives seem to take on a covering of darkness. We are quick to call it fate, being unlucky in life, or we are being punished by some outside force for not doing what we are told to do. We develop tunnel vision and list all the negative events in our lives to prove to ourselves that we are correct in our assumptions why a particular event occurs.

We rail against God, fate, or the unreasonable expectations of others. We criticize ourselves for the mistakes we make like trusting other people too much or relying on others instead of doing it ourselves. We tell ourselves we should be smarter, stronger, wiser, better equipped, and more self-reliant.

But the truth about adversity or negative events occurring may be as simple as reminding ourselves that life has always been full of positive and negative events. The sun rises and the sun sets, seasons come and go, and things live and things die. Good and evil exist in our world. We are given things and sometimes they are taken away whether we like it or not. Life happens and our sense of being in control fluctuates throughout our life span.

We can make our lives easier if we just accept that change is a part of living, and that evil exists but we can choose to be a force for good in our own lives, and the lives of those we come in contact with. We can learn better coping skills and teach ourselves to accept those things we can not change. We can also remind ourselves of our blessings and learn to enjoy them in the moments we are experiencing them. We can take them out and look at them again in times of adversity and remind ourselves that goodness and love still exist, even in the darkness.

In order to do this, we have to make a commitment to observe our thoughts and emotions. Our thoughts come and we can feel our emotions, but we don’t have to  allow them to overwhelm us. We can choose to become active participants in our own lives, or we can choose to focus on being victims in need of safety. It will take persistence, courage, and trust in ourselves to achieve this. In the end, we can also find peace.

Yu/stan/kema

REFLECTIONS ON LOSS #2

06 Saturday Dec 2014

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adversity, crisis, dark night of the soul, God, losses

sad boys with quotes (6). Found on Googe+ Nov.22/14

sad boys with quotes (6). Found on Google+ Nov.22/14

Crisis of the Soul

When I was young, God was a very powerful figure in my life. He was compassionate and caring, and always loving. As a child, I trusted Him to take care of me, watch out for me. Times were tough in childhood. Starvation was real, being beaten was often, and safe places were hard to find. Even with that to contend with, I always knew God had the power to do anything, and He would make it turn out OK,  eventually. I just had to wait for the good times to come.

As a young adult,  I remained  steadfast in my faith and I learned that God had His own rules and ways of dealing with things. He would often send hardships into my life for a reason, to teach me lessons that were long overdue.

In my Mid-life years, my faith remained true and unwavering in the God I knew as a child. I was happily married, had a child, and a good job I loved. Life was good, and I thought I had everything. I wasn’t rich, but I had a home, a family, good health, a good job, and had a relationship with a friend who became a mother to me and a grandmother to my child.

The years passed. My husband became ill with a serious disease that crippled him. He lost his job and he became fearful of things that never happened which started affecting his judgement, his ability to make good decisions. I became the sole breadwinner of the family. My child left home to get an education, and things slowly fell apart. There was a divorce and life went on. Still I remained strong in my faith and committed to doing the will of God. The years passed and I retired.

Old age came and left its mark on my body. I started making plans for traveling, and  doing the things I wanted to do but put off doing for one reason or another. I thought I had lots of time ahead of me. In seven years, I had  five surgeries which took its toll on my body. My best friend became ill multiple times which affected her health as well. In the last year, I’ve had to deal with multiple traumas and the loss of my health. My plans are on hold and I no longer have the energy to do them. I am trying to adjust to an illness that has serious ramifications for me and the treatments are difficult.

I have lost the only real mother I have ever known. Old age has robbed me of my strength and  energy.  I am seeing people, I once worked with, die and old neighbors die. The City is changing all around me. Life, as I once knew it, no longer exists, and I find my soul  in crisis. I ask ” why” a lot and there are times I am angry.  I feel sadness, and there are times I feel afraid. I feel like a mighty oak ripped up from its foundation. I am lost in a world I no longer recognize and I am scrambling for a foot hold. I am not defeated, but I have  sustained much damage. I do not know what the end results will be. I do know I need to pray and somehow find the courage to have faith in God again.

Yu/stan/kema

Reflections on Giving

10 Monday Nov 2014

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All things come from God and He created every thing. I imagine, as with all of us, He was proud of what He had created and had great expectations for those He breathed the breath of life into. We too have great expectations and dreams for the children we bring forth into the world. They, for the most part, have free will which becomes clear around the age of two and during their teen years. If we did a good job parenting them, they may develop the skills to make good decisions.

With the gift of life, we are given the ability to reason when we reach adolescence and with that gift we are also accountable for the time we spend on earth. What we do with the gifts we are given by God has great significance for our lives. I believe the greatest gift we can make back to God is to love one another and to give of our resources to feed the hungry, take care of the poor, and provide spiritual and emotional help for those who need a strong hand in order to navigate  the storms in their lives. The resources we can give to those who need help include things like clothing, food, shelter, transportation, and some times money. We can invite people into our homes and break bread with them, touch those who need comforting, listen intently  to their needs, and give counsel for those who are in need of our guidance,

Facebook -timeline-photo. 4-10-15. Author unknown

Facebook -timeline-photo. 4-10-15. Author unknown. Good Therapy.org

As human beings with a soul, they deserve our time and love.It may mean the next time we see someone struggling, we offer them help or a ride, or if we see someone crying in the bathroom of a store, we take the time to be with them in their hurt and let them know someone cares that  a heart is breaking. It may mean making a choice between making more money in a business endeavor or sharing resources so someone can get the help they need. Not only did God give us the gift of life, He allowed His son to be sacrificed so that we would have a path to eternal life. So seriously, maybe we do need to evaluate how we are using our lives and to make changes when necessary.

Sara Longfellow

Reflections On Adversity

02 Sunday Nov 2014

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There are times in life when everything seems to be going smoothly for me. The sky is blue, relationships are great, money is in my billfold, the bills are paid, and I feel great. I’m sure you have had days like this. Then out of the blue, something shatters my sense that everything is right with the world.

I get pneumonia and I end up in the hospital. While I am there, the Dr. says I also have this rare disease that I’ve had since I was born but it has been in remission for at least 60 years. You’d think after sixty years, it would have died out or worn itself out. But now, it chooses this inopportune time to make itself known, just when I was about to enjoy retirement and get social again. I had plans of travelling all over the United States and seeing all the wonderful beauty that was just waiting there for me. I had worked hard for thirty plus years and this was going to be my time to have fun. I was going to do all the things I had put off because of work constraints.

Now, I have to change my life style and my plans are scaled back. I have periods of OK energy and periods when my body won’t do what my brain tells it to do. I was one of those people who had to finish what I was doing no matter what. I just pushed myself when I felt tired and got the task done. Now when I get tired, I try to do the same thing, but I fall asleep and when I wake up at the keyboard, I’ve typed a lot of gibberish. If I don’t divide my reservoir of energy, I can end up at Wal-Mart  pushing my cart, falling asleep, and end up barely hitting people. I appreciate them yelling when my cart gets too close. The Dr. tells me to stay away from sick people so I don’t catch what they have. In the winter time,  everyone seems to be sick so my socializing has also been scaled back. I spend eight hours a month getting antibodies pumped back into my body. I end up scheduling my life around this disease. Then I wait months to be tested to see if its working. Patience is not an attribute of mine. I tend to get a little cranky a week before the IV is placed again into my arm. This schedule repeats itself until my body decides it has had enough.

The point of this story is you only have this moment in time. Allow yourself to do your living now and let laughter become a part of your life. Make your friendships now and love like you’ve never loved before. Enjoy every golden moment before you. Those moments are more precious than you can possibly realize. Things happen when we least expect them to.

Yu/stan/kema

 

 

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