I am learning all about balance. Most of my life I have never been half-hearted in my emotions. It is usually all or nothing.  Now I am learning its nice to be somewhere in the middle. It’s more peaceful that way,  and I will probably live longer.  DBT Skills are helpful in learning to do this. Having a good teacher helps a lot. Try out a class in DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills).  It can be useful in learning how to tolerate distress and regulate emotions. It also teaches interpersonal effectiveness skills as well as Mindfulness skills. If you can’t do a group, there is a book of handouts you can order at a Bookstore near you. Marsha M. Linehan has written a manual and a book of handouts.

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Books

Linehan,Marsha M. (2015). DBT Skills Training Manual, Second Edition. New York: The Guilford Press.

Linehan, Marsha M. (2015).  DBT Sills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition. New York: The Guilford Press.